I lived my life backwards, well I still am living life backwards. When most people follow the traditional get married, buy a house, have children I completely mixed things up. I had my son, got engaged, called off an “engagement”, started over, found the love of my life, became an insta-family with 2 more children, had 2 more children of our own, got engaged, bought a house, and now comes the wedding plans. I felt like everything came easy up until now: wedding planning. Even buying our home, where my hubby views it as his worst nightmare I really thought it was a learning adventure, and besides that a great memory.
Now back to the wedding plans. In 5 years, this will be our 3rd go at this. Each previous time the wedding was called off, and not because we're calling it off due to our relationship, but more so due to things going on in our family, or at work, or with finances. I came to the conclusion that it may just be me making a long list of excuses, not because I am afraid of commitment because it’s not that (In a sense we already are married, but we want to solidify it with our parents and children and of course a white dress, hence why I refer to him as hubby every now and again) I absolutely hate being the center of attention, and I think that is a great part of my reservations when it comes to wedding planning, but at the same time there is nothing more that I want than me in a white dress confessing my love to the love of my life.
We went from planning a medium size winter wedding, to a large size nighttime summer wedding, to an elopement/small wedding. I now have the dress, and the flowers, I even have a few bridesmaids, now it’s just time for the venue. Why is it that everyone always feels so entitled to expressing their feelings on where you should, or shouldn’t say I do? I didn’t realize I was marrying more than one person. Unfortunately for me, I allow people’s opinions to matter, in the sense that I feel everyone is valid for the way they feel so I at least contemplate the suggestion they have made, which means bad news when you have over twenty different people making twenty different suggestions.
The original plans as far as this time around was an elopement to Maine, with our closest friends and family. Well no one likes Maine, no one wants to drive to Maine, so now I am looking at other places…. I will be damned before I call off this wedding. We will be getting married this year, even if that means I say “I do” in my pajamas in my backyard, it’s going to happen.
My curious question today as I desperately rummaged the internet for other feasible options is how does everyone else do it? And I am sure the explanation is as simple as “this is why there is such a thing as bridezillas”, with that aside what are some ways that you got through the wedding planning without turning into a giant green monster?
Thank you for stopping by and reading. Any questions, or tips? Please leave a comment below and I would be happy to hear what everyone has to say!